Anne-Mare made me a mummy for the second time. I was the naive one. I thought I had invented motherhood.

 

I introduce you to Valentijn, our first child. After the bottle tight at seven o’clock in bed and out the next morning. Always cheerful and above all very happy! Screaming in a supermarket? A hysterical child in car seat? I didn’t even know what it was…. The universe had a payback moment in store for me. I had to reinvent motherhood.

Please, let me introduce you to Anne-Mare. From minute one after the birth to the breast and not turning away from me. Like there was a GPS tracker in that little mini human that could feel when I was more than three feet away from her. And then there came a noise! Loud and endless.

Adapting my motherhood skills
Maybe I transferred my Frisian stubbornness, she was absolutely my superior in her perseverance. I’m not exaggerating when I say that from birth she was stuck to my body for an average of twenty hours a day. We slept together and all day I walked with her in the baby carrier.

But I refuse crying babies. I definitely felt my breaking moments. Once I said to Anne-Mare’s daddy: “Now get her off me because I want to throw her down the stairs!” I wasn’t sleeping anymore and I wanted my body back.

People who know me will acknowledge that I am not the ‘Oilily type’ mother (which is nothing wrong with that, we all do it our own way). But if you had told me that I would breastfeed for almost three years, I would have laughed at you. It’s that an operation was planned, otherwise she probably would still have wanted to breastfeed.

Where other kids have a cuddle rabbit… you guessed it, we still have surprised faces here when she asks me to hug my ‘tit’. But after all the reinventing and discovering all is well, this feisty girl is now the happiness self and is literally hopping instead of walking through life.

Love, Marianne

Ps: I would have done it exactly like this the next time.
Ps: Anne-Mare, when you’re sixteen, I’m gonna get you back with this.

 

Marianne Bos

Marianne is mother of Valentijn (2012) and Anne-Mare (2014) and one of the Founders of Topsitters. Once in a while she gives you a glimpse into her turbulent life as a mother and entrepreneur.

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